I saw "Enchanted" over the Thanksgiving weekend, with my kids and a dozen other members of my family. Cute movie - fun for everyone.
It presented the idea that all relationships have an element of fantasy and reality in them. Too much fantasy, and you are really a cartoon. Too much reality and there is no passion, no flair.
What is your experience with the balance of fantasy and reality in your relationships?
For me, I was married to Peter Pan, who, as you might recall, ran away from reality and lived entirely in his own fantasy world, determined not to be a man. Peter Pan can be a lot of fun - so confident and adventurous.
Since then, ironically, I have been better at the fantasy part of the relationship. The reality scares me. It's all fine until it becomes everyday. Then I get the willies. Love at first sight, the fantasy, like Romeo & Juliet, seems easier than the real stuff. How do you move from one to the other?
About Me
- AM Kingsfield
- Maryland, United States
- I am a yoga teacher and divorced mother of three fantastic kids. Having outlived Plan A, I have come to love living in Plan B - actually I think I'm on Plan H by now. I love to visit with friends on my front porch. Pull up a chair, kick up your feet, and tell me your story!
AM as Construction Girl
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AM,
My last relationship was more like Peter Pan peanut butter, i.e., like as in a peanut butter cup -- solid and well sculpted on the outside but a gooey mess on the inside. It almost makes me wish I that I was Clark Kent -- to have X-ray vision so as to be able to see someone from the inside out and not to repeat that same mistake. But unfortunately as Forrest Gump would say, "Life is like a box of Chocolates you never know whats inside " (until of course its too late).
Anyhow the Mon night dinners only run-up till Dec 10th, and then you will have to wait until four more weeks until they resume. So AM we are expecting you to attend in the next three weeks. Be there by NTL 6:30PM.
Bon Appetite
AM,
I never made that James Bond event a few weeks ago. But Titan Cigar is having a James Bond promotional event for its Rocky Patel Cigars this Fri. eve. If you come Black Tie - guys ( or gals ) can earn a free complimentary RP Cigar just for showing up. Ladies, if you can overlook this one little bad habit - its probably a great oppty for you to potentially snag a new guy. The plus side being you can see what he looks like all dressed to the nine before the New Years Party.
My most recent experience is a tale of the Lady and the Tramp. Although he seemed to suffer from some Pinocchio disorder, but I didn't discover it until it was much too late.
I can admit that I have always been good at the fantasy part of the relationship....so good in fact that I can forget the reality of it and not see the red flags flying vividly around me. But when I do finally see the flags, you're right. The day to day of it all is much harsher than the fantasy part.
If I've learned anything from the Disney princesses I've grown up watching, it is that they all had to suffer some type of hardship to get to the happily ever after part!
Hey Money Girl,
Hope you saw my message to you under T-Day Plans.
You and AM are welcome to attend the Mon night dinner if either of you or both of you are available ?
I may possibly get dressed up as JB for a complimentary RP-cigar this Fri. Perhaps you can come along as Ms. Moneypenny ?
It looks like December 3rd is my best day to go to your church singles dinner, Mike. I'm going to do a column on local singles groups in area houses of worship - coming up in the February issue.
The cigar event sounds fun, but I cannot attend. Who else is going? You are right about that being a likely place to meet a new man. I think all you need is a lighter. They have some high end bourbon inside too.
moneygirl, I don't think the fairy tales helped us a whole lot. Belle is a great heroine, though. And Giselle, in this movie, "Enchanted" is pretty good too.
AM,
Glad to hear you can finally make it. I'll give Steve Hartman the heads up on your anticipated column and we'll see you on Mon Dec 3rd.
Now where is that Moneypenny ?
Am,
Your right about the fairy tales not helping for future life events. Wonder what will happen to all the little girls who currently worship them?!?!
Mike,
Monday and Wednesday nights are horrible for me. I teach an 11th grader who is out of school recovering from a pretty intensive ankle injury. Thanks for the invite though.
The thing I hate is having a lovely date, all is going well, then suddenly she is gone and all I have left is this one shoe. Then having to drive all over the place looking for its owner! :-) There is always room for fantasy! The reality of two people working together to build something wonderful for themselves and their families is great too.
AM,
Well I did end up going to the James Bond promo at Titan. Way cool -- a lounge in the back with a huge wide screen HD flat panel. I took in all of the video surround sound of Thunderball and To Russia with Love --even enjoyed a cigar or two with the house lighters that even Que would love. and They had the 2 Bond girls who promo'd the high end scotch and burbon
( although I did not partake ----of the drinks that is ). Real sophisticalted clientelle - 98% or better well educated men most came in black tie. Ladies you sure missed your chance to light up their life --- but if you look on the bright side -- no dry cleaning bills to get all of that infused cigar aroma out your eve gowns either.
Now where was that Monneypenny ?
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